Testimonials

Here are a few letters written to us by our clients. We hope they will reinforce the information on this site and help you learn more about the adoption process.

Growing Up Adopted

My name is Elizabeth. I was born 14 years ago in California. Two days later I was on my way to New York City to meet my father and brother and be adopted. I had already met my mother. She was the one who picked me up from the hospital. She was also the one who, when I was five years old, told me about being adopted.

It had been a year before, when I was four years old, that there was a gorilla named Coco. Coco had become the mother of a new kitten. She held the kitten lovingly and was concerned about everything the kitten did. She was protective and very motherly. My mother read me the book about Coco in order to explain adoption to me.

My mother told me that like the kitten, I had two mothers. There was my first mother who raised me inside her and gave birth to me but could not care for me after I was born. Then there was my second mother who could not give birth to me, or any baby, but could raise a child outside her belly. Like the kitty's two mothers who needed to find each other, so too did my two mothers look and look until they found one another. I listened to this story of adoption and then said, "I guess we were all really lucky we found each other."

Many people have asked me how it feels to be adopted. For the most part, being adopted is not something I think about very much in my day-to-day life. My adoptive mother is, really, just my mother. The person who gave birth to me was someone who did me a great big favor. In the long run though, being adopted is a very important and special thing to me. I was really lucky to have been adopted. If I had not been adopted, where would I be right now? Who would I be right now? Would I even be right now?

Quite often people also ask whether other kids ever make fun of me because I am adopted or do I ever feel bad about it. I can only remember one time that I was made to feel bad about my adoption. There was a little boy in my class in kindergarten who did not understand what adoption was all about. He would make fun of me every day and say: "Your parents did not love you. They just gave you away." One day I realized they did not just give me away. I was a gift from my first mother to my second mother and that both mothers loved me very much. So I went up to him and said: All four of my parents love me very much. Each of them went through so much just for me. The first parents I had did not give me away. They loved me so much that they wanted to share me with others and gave me as a gift." After that the boy never said a single thing about adoption.

Because of my experiences I strongly support adoption. Why would we want to deprive people if we could just help them out? My second mother helped out my first mother and my first mother helped out my second mother. If you think about it, what is the point of not having another wonderful person in the world especially when that person comes from so many people loving and helping one another.

September 11, 2002 Hi Judith - Here's my testimonial. I'll send you a few photos. 3 beautiful little boys - they are my testimonial to the fine work of Advocates for Adoption. Dr. Judith Lee is a down-to-earth, honest, capable and caring individual who deftly guides adoptive parents through the adoption process. Advocates for Adoption can change your life -- it did mine--my 3 beautiful little boys are certainly evidence of that. Lisa and John

8/14/02

Dear Judith and the staff at Advocates for Adoption,

How can we thank all of you for making our dream come true? Dennis and I had been through 4 failed invitro fertilization attempts, when we came to your seminar on adoption. You made what could have been a complicated process a very warm personal experience. You guided us without ever making us feel pressured. You helped ease the emotional ups and downs of the process. You shared personal stories and losses to make us feel we were not alone. Thank you for not giving up on us during the difficult moments and remaining calm to help us through.

Our beautiful daughter turns 3 this week and not a day goes by that I don't look into her big, bright, happy brown eyes and thank God for bringing us together. The miracle of adoption has changed our lives forever. Without your guidance and expertise we might still be waiting for our miracle.

With Sincerity and Love,

Pam & Dennis